House Hunting Update #2: Another One Bites The Dust

And another one gone, and another one gone, another one bites the dust. Wondering how house hunting is going? That about sums it up. Today’s post is a house hunting update sharing new trials and challenges (yes, there are more), as well as what we’ve learned along the way.

Before continuing, read my previous house hunting updates if you haven’t already.

This is not for the faint of heart.

Offer count: too many 

Remember that house I mentioned in my last update that we put an offer in on and didn’t get accepted? Well, it went back on the market a week later (for unknown reasons) and the seller didn’t pick our offer again. Yeah, it’s just as frustrating as it sounds.

I’m happy for all of these people having enough luck to snag their dream homes, but what about us? When will it be our turn? This process has taught me a new form of resiliency that I didn’t know I needed, this time for losing things when it’s completely out of my control. Did I do anything wrong? Nope. It’s all about timing and sheer luck and that’s a game you can never truly “win” at, no matter how hard you try. All we can do is keep trying until we strike gold.

We lost two houses this past weekend. Two beautiful homes slipped between our fingers, even though we were as quick and decisive as humanly possible (one we lost by only 30 minutes, and the other we didn’t even see before we put an offer in). It’s hard losing something you kind of had to picture your life in in order to determine if it’s the right house for you. That may sound dramatic, but allowing yourself to picture that future somewhere, falling in love with the idea enough to put an offer in, then having it completely dismissed as if it never even happed is pretty brutal.

I’ve wanted to give up so many times, you guys. One of the main things that’s keeping me going, to be frank, is the fact that we’re switching over to month-to-month rent in May and there’s a huge uncharge that comes along with that. Nothing makes this girl stick with something than the threat of money going down the drain. No bueno!

The devil works hard, but I work harder.

 Well, I’m trying to. *insert Kris Jenner meme* 

The main thing I want you all to take out of these updates is that everyone struggles. As much as you think you’re prepared, you know what you want and you have your ducks in a row, things aren’t always going to work in your favor. I’ve always been a big believer in hard work promises positive results no matter how long the process takes and you can always get what you’ve earned with enough determination, but that hasn’t rang true yet in this instance yet.

My new motto (along with the bold one above) is that if we don’t get what we want, I’m not going down without a fight and giving it my absolute all. Guns blazing. If we’re going to loose something (and chances are we probably will), I want to know that we did everything we could. I want to know for certain that we exhausted all of our efforts, every inch of wit up our sleeves and all the fight within us. And if it’s still working out for us after all of that, then it’s just not meant to be and it’s someone else’s dream come true.

Moral of the story is: don’t house hunt. Ever. A little dramatic, but definitely know what you’re getting into before you get started so you can be prepared and eliminate the shock value! I promise you it’s ten times harder than you already think it is. If you’re reading these house hunting posts wishing you were doing the same, enjoy where you’re at right now because this can be heart wrenching. And since this process has been so hellish, I know the day that we do finally get a house will be that much sweeter (I could go on and on about the pressures of finding the one and only house that is “right” for you, but I’ll save that for another post). Since house hunting is so hectic and unexpected, we could literally get our house tomorrow or in three months. We truly don’t know. However, I do know that I’m anticipating lots of happy tears and maybe a shock-induced coma.

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Thanks for catching up with me and reading my sob story (LOL, but for real)! I appreciate all of your support and and kind words more than you know! Any tips or condolences would be greatly appreciated. 😉